Talking to your partner

Need some advice on talking to your partner? Contraception and relationships go hand in hand, so it's important you choose a method that's best for you (and your other half!). Choosing a contraceptive that suits your body and lifestyle means you can relax and get on with enjoying your sex life, without the worry of an unplanned pregnancy.

Toni Belfield, Specialist in Sexual Health Information shares her top tips...

Toni says... “Contraception is a normal and important part of life so you should never feel embarrassed to talk about it. If you want to choose a contraceptive method with your partner, share the information you have on the different options available and talk through the benefits and risks, discussing the needs of your lifestyle and relationship”.

“It's important to choose a method you both feel comfortable with. Only if you have full information on the methods available can you have an effective conversation with your partner and really feel sure that you've made an informed decision. The better you and your partner understand contraception the more likely you are to use that contraceptive responsibly and avoid an unplanned pregnancy”.

Here's how to get the conversation going...

1. Do your research
With 15 different methods to choose from, there's a good chance you''ll find one which best complements your body and lifestyle. Talk to your partner about your sex life, work life and family life to make sure you choose an option that fits with your relationship.

2. Plan a time and place that is comfortable for you both
This is a private conversation between you and your partner so choose a place where you''ll both feel at ease, without the worry of interruptions or feeling rushed.

3. Don't be embarrassed!
Contraception is a normal part of life but we probably aren't talking about it enough. Keep the conversation relaxed and to the point. Print out some information for your partner in advance of the chat to make sure you're both as comfortable as possible with the methods available.

4. Sexual history
Talking about your sexual histories can be tricky but it is important to consider when choosing a contraceptive. STIs including syphilis, chlamydia, genital warts and herpes have been on the increase since the 1990s. Is there a possibility that either you or your partner has been exposed to a STI? If so, it's worth visiting your local GUM/family planning clinic for peace of mind. Remember: only condoms protect you from STIs.